Being Alone with a Non-Mahram

Amat Al-Kareem April 12, 2011 9

Being alone with a non-mahram – Khalwa.

Shaytaan is always keen to tempt people and make them commit haraam deeds. For this reason, Allaah warned us (interpretation of the meaning):

“O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan. And whosoever follows the footsteps of Shaytaan, then, verily he commands al-fahshaa’ (indecency) and al-munkar (evil deeds) . . .” [al-Noor 24:21]

Shaytaan runs through the veins of mankind like blood, and one of the ways in which he induces people to commit indecent acts is by leading a man to be alone with a non-mahram woman. Islaam blocks this way by forbidding such conduct, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“No man is alone with a (non-mahram) woman, but Shaytaan will be the third among them.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 3/474; see also Mishkaat al-Masaabeeh, 3118).

Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“From this day on, no man should enter upon a woman whose husband is absent unless there is another man or two with him.” (Reported by Muslim, 4/1711).

It is not permitted for a man to be alone in a house, room or car with a non-mahram woman, including his brother’s wife or a servant.

Al-Bukhaari (1862) and Muslim (1341) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“No man should be alone with a woman unless her mahram is with her.”

Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) narrated in Sharh Muslim (14/153) that there is scholarly consensus that it is haraam for a man to be alone with a non-mahram woman. This was also mentioned by al-Haafiz in al-Fath (4/77).

What is meant by a man being alone with a woman is that they are alone together in a place with no one else present. Whoever gives up a thing for the sake of Allaah, Allaah will compensate him with something better than that.

The Muslim has to understand things as they are and what they lead to, and not be tempted by the things that the Shaytaan makes attractive, or be deceived when the Shaytaan tries to make him think of evil actions as insignificant as a trick to make people join his party of losers. He has to fear Allaah his Lord in private and in public, and know that Allaah sees him and knows his intentions and his actions, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Allaah knows the fraud of the eyes, and all that the breasts conceal.” [Ghaafir 40:19]

Taken from Islam QA


  1. Umm I April 12, 2011 at 11:52 pm Reply Tweet
  2. Amat Al-Kareem April 15, 2011 at 1:55 am Reply Tweet

    Jazakillaahu Khayrun sis.

    The fitnah (temptation) posed by women and the evil things that result from that are well known. According to the hadeeth, “I have not left behind me any fitnah more harmful for men than women.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5096; Muslim, 2740). According to another hadeeth: “Beware of this world and beware of women, for the first fitnah of the Children of Israel was because of women.” (Narrated by Muslim, 2742)

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  3. Umm I April 16, 2011 at 7:41 pm Reply Tweet

    What is prescribed for young people – both male and female – is to hasten to get married, following the advice of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, and whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5065), Muslim (1400).

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  4. bintfulaan April 17, 2011 at 12:04 am Reply Tweet

    SubhanAllaah. Even marriage has become difficult upon the youth these days. Either the mahr is too high, or they have to finish studying, or there's a line of siblings to get married before them, or a father refuses to look for his daughter coz its considered 'shameful'. The reasons are endless. And because of this our brothers and sisters fall into haraam relationships and so called 'secret marriages'.. as the haraam becomes easier than the halaal.

    As with a lot of things, easier said than done.

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  5. when a rope tightens April 17, 2011 at 12:20 am Reply Tweet

    bismillahir rahmaanir raheem

    i don't wish to particularly add much to this, but i will say the following insha'allah:

    allah [swt] doesn't place you in any situation, any situation, except that there is wisdom behind it. if one seeks marriage and there is difficulty, then know, in this too, there is wisdom insha'Allah.

    and we seek allah's succour in all matters. aameen.

    wallahu alam


    p.s – my statement was non-specific insha'allah

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  6. Umm I April 17, 2011 at 2:49 pm Reply Tweet

    I understand what you are saying Ya Bint Fulaan, however, committing a sin has no excuse except one's own weakness, may Allaah protect us from this, aameen. Just because one is in a difficult situation, it doesn't give them an excuse to sin or to trangress, for every difficulty, Allaah has paved a way for them to ease, so for the above, it is to fast if one can not get married and has desires. Allaah does not place a burden on a soul, more than they can bear, wAllaahu akbar. When one is in a difficult situation, it is a mercy from Alaah, His wisdom and even His generosity, it just depends on one's outlook in life, the dunya and the akhirah.

    wAllaahu a'lam

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  7. bintfulaan April 17, 2011 at 3:04 pm Reply Tweet

    Jazaakillaahu khayran Umm I, your words are applicable in all situations and not just this one . The one who sins has no legitimate excuse.

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  8. Umm I April 17, 2011 at 3:08 pm Reply Tweet

    yep, sorry, I was referring to all situations, but was just using the above situation as an example due it being the topic on this post.

    wAllaahu a'lam

    Wassalaamu 'alaikum

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  9. bintfulaan April 17, 2011 at 3:40 pm Reply Tweet

    Its about a marriage contract that 'is very close to zina if it is not zina'. There's six parts.. by Shaykh Haitham. Although its about marriage, there's a alot of general naseeha that can be gained from it wAllaahu a'lam. I pray we benefit from it.


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