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bintfulaan February 3, 2011 7

Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem

All Praise is due to Allaah, the Lord of mankind and jinn, and may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon Muhammad, His slave and Final Messenger.

The next evil of the tongue mentioned by Imaam Muhammad ibn Abdul Wahhab (may Allaah have mercy on him) is ‘prolonged disputes’.

Allaah says:

“And obey Allaah and His Messenger, and do not dispute (with one another) lest you lose courage and your strength departs, and be patient. Surely, Allaah is with those who are As-Saabiroon (the patient)”

[al-Anfaal 8:46]

Were you aware that Allaah, Exalted be He, orders the believers to not dispute with another? Islaam is truly a way of life.

It was reported by Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, that the Messenger of Allaah, may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him said:

“The man who is most hateful to Allaah is the one who quarrels and disputes the most.”

[Bukhaari and Muslim]

The act of disputing and quarrelling is so hateful to Allaah, that it becomes permissible to lie in order to reconcile the two that are disputing.

It was narrated from Umm Kalthoom bint ‘Uqbah ibn Abi Mu’eet that she heard the Messenger of Allaah, may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him, say:

“He is not a liar who seeks to reconcile between people and says good things.”

[Bukhaari]

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told us that reconciling between people is better than observing voluntary fasts, offering voluntary prayers and giving voluntary charity.

It was narrated that Abu’l-Darda’, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: The Messenger of Allaah , may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him, said:

“Shall I not tell you something that is better than the status of (voluntary) fasting, prayer and charity?” They said: “Yes.” He said: “Reconciling in a case of discord, for the evil of discord is the shaver.”

[Abu Dawood and Tirmidhi]

The feeling that we get in our heart suffices. We know it is wrong to forsake our brothers/sisters in Islaam. I do not know of anyone that has been in such a situation but that there has been a ‘grey cloud’ hanging over them for as long as the dispute lasted.

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah, (may Allaah be pleased with him), said that the Prophet, may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him, said:

“Do not hate one another, do not envy one another, do not turn away from one another. Be, O slaves of Allaah, brothers. It is not permissible for a Muslim to forsake his brother for more than three days.”

[Bukhaari and  Muslim]

It was narrated that Abu Ayyoob al-Ansaari, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: The Prophet, may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), said:

“It is not permissible for a Muslim to forsake his brother for more than three days, each of them turning away when they meet. The better of them is the one who gives the greeting of salaam first.”

[Bukhaari and Muslim]

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: The Prophet, may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him, said:

“The gates of Paradise are opened on Monday and Thursday, and everyone who does not associate anything with Allaah is forgiven, except a man who has had an argument with his brother. It is said: ‘Wait for these two until they reconcile, wait for these two until they reconcile, wait for these two until they reconcile.”

[Muslim]

Al-Nawawi said: “Wait for these two” means wait until they have reconciled and love has been restored between them.

Is this hadith in itself not sufficient for a believer to run towards the brother he had been arguing with and just embrace him for the sake of Allaah?

It was narrated from Abu Kharaash al-Sulami that he heard the Messenger of Allaah may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him, say:

“Whoever forsakes his brother for a year, it is as if he has shed his blood.”

[Abu Dawood]

Would any of us dare to shed the blood of our brothers? The thought of it alone is beyond our imagination. Why then do we continue to forsake our brothers and sisters for years on end? Take heed my brothers and sisters, for we do not know when our time will come.

I remind myself before I remind you.

And Allaah knows best.

Sources:

‘The Book of Major Sins’ by Muhammad ibn Abdul Wahhab

http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/65500/

7 Comments »

  1. Abu Umayr February 3, 2011 at 5:15 am Reply Tweet

    Longly awaited..

    We ask Allaah to inspire us to seek forgiveness and act upon all the good you have been able to share. Aameen.

    Indeed the reminder benefits..

    Wa Jazaakillaahu Khayran


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  2. bintfulaan February 3, 2011 at 9:32 am Reply Tweet

    I apologise to anyone who was waiting (if there was anyone) for these posts. Please do forgive me.

    Aameen. I pray that we all benefit from Al Kawni and that it weighs heavy on the scales of those who created the site. Aameen.

    Wa BarakAllaahu feek


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  3. :) February 3, 2011 at 12:06 pm Reply Tweet

    May Allaah(swt) make us of those that do not forsake our brothers and sisters in islam. May He grant us the ability to forgive easily. Aameen.

    A great reminder. Jazakillaahu Khayrun.


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  4. Umm Maeesha February 3, 2011 at 2:02 pm Reply Tweet

    JazkAllah Khair for this Sister.

    We ask Allah to put love and mercy between our hearts and allow us to overlook mistakes and shortcomings, Ameen.


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  5. Sister February 3, 2011 at 6:59 pm Reply Tweet

    SubhanAllaah, some deep and scary stuff!

    aameen thumma aameen


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  6. Umm Abu Dujaanah February 4, 2011 at 2:56 am Reply Tweet

    Jazaakillaahu Khayran Ya ukhtee Bint Fulaan, Very Beneficial reminder mashaAllaah


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  7. bintfulaan February 4, 2011 at 4:05 am Reply Tweet

    BarakAllaahu feekum.

    Aameen.


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