Proceed Ya Muslimah Proceed!

Umm Abu Dujaanah December 13, 2010 11

Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem

Alhamdulillaahir Rabb al-’Alameen, Was Salaatu was Salaam ‘ala rasoolillaah wa ‘ala aalihee wa Sah bihee wa manwala wa Ba’d

Shaykh Muhammad Bin Abdul Rahman Al Arifi

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May Allaah put Barakah in our time and allow us to progress in the Deen, Aameen.


  1. talktoomuch December 16, 2010 at 7:16 pm Reply Tweet

    subhan'allah! why chop off the frogs legs?? call the nspcc for animal cruelty lol!

    stepping away from that, brilliant discussion masha'allah. thought-provoking and greatly needed in our times. i pray it will benefit both the sisters and brothers insha'allah.

    it's unfortunate that today we live in a time where women, especially sisters who begin to practice the deen whilst in institutions such as college or uni, quite simply give up many of their ambitions and aspirations as they become more 'deeny.'i fail to see how and why an increase in ones understanding and implementation of islaam impinges so negatively on their academia and attaining prominence in professional fields. islaam most certainly does not oblige you to being uneducated or unambitious women, so what exactly does?

    you know, if you ever watch/read interviews of children in war torn or poverty-stricken countries [many of them muslim], when they're asked what it is they'd like to do [if they didn't have to go out and earn at the tender age of 7, or spend all day looking after their siblings whilst their poor parents earn], the one, most-common thing that comes top of their priority list is to go out and get an education. to be schooled. to learn.

    so why is it, and i ask this specifically of the sisters, why is it that whilst you have the blessed opportunity from allah, to find yourselves as part of arguably one of the best education systems of the modern world; why is it that you become so distant from your studies, critical and even ungrateful towards this wonderful opportunity from allah jalla wa 'ala? why do you give up on all aspirations associated with education, or that might entail embarking upon a career?

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  2. Umm Abu Dujaanah December 16, 2010 at 11:07 pm Reply Tweet

    Alhamdulillaah, the points you have made are excellent ones. If we are in education, then we should try our best to pursue in it

    It has been narrated on the authority of Abu Ya’la Shaddad ibn Aus, radiyAllaahu ‘Anhu who reported that the Messenger of Allaah, SalAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: ‘Veriy, Allaah has enjoined excellence (Ihsaan) with regards to everything. So when you kill, kill in a good way; when you slaughter, slaughter in a good way; so everyone of you should sharpen his knife and let the slaughtered animal die comfortably’ (Narrated by Imaam Muslim)

    Sometimes, it may be the case that sisters prefer not to get an education. There may be many reasons, be it they don’t like being in mixed environments or some may be wives/mothers who prefer to devote their time to their families and refrain from the haraams that may be associated with mixed environments. Some sisters may prefer to devote their time to studying the deen, from memorising Qur’aan and Hadeeth, to studying ‘Aqeedah which to them is a greater skill they accquire as they will inshaAllaah through this raise and educate the new generation of Muslims.

    Some sisters may want to simply avoid the fitnah of university and work as is the case with many sisters. Others may even see open university as an option to educating themseleves. MashaAllaah walhamdulillaah, I have met a lot of female students of knowledge who did not go to university, but are still extrodinarily smart; smarter and wiser than a lot of educated people I have met

    But nonetheless, those who are in secular education should strive to do their best in secular studies (Yes although it may be the most difficult of things walhamdulillaah!) but at the same time we should have the Khashyah (in depth fear) of Allaah jalla jalaa lu hu, while in college/uni. Sisters should also at the same time try to strike a balance and devote some of their time to studying the deen aswell

    Studying secular education is something important for many of us within colleges, universities,training institutions as a a variety of skills can be gained from it that will inshaAllaah benefit the Ummaah. and Allaah knows what situation we may be in where one day we may need it. Alhamdulillaah Allaah has blessed us with many oppurtunities not just in secular education, but Allaah has made it so easy for us sisters to go out there in a variety of institutes to seek the deen alongside our secular studies, and we should make time for this. Yes, secular studies may teach us about the world, but studying the deen will teach us about our Rabb and the greatest favour that was ever bestowed upon us- the deen of Al-Islaam

    End of the day, yes it is very important for us to be skilled and learned but we have to understand that not only do we become skilled and learned in our degrees and what not but at the same time we strive twice as hard to become learned in the deen, to become true learned people, to be those people that the angels seek forgiveness for, those people that the birds and fishes seek forgiveness for and what a lofty position that is!

    And Allaah knows best

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  3. talktoomuch December 17, 2010 at 1:26 am Reply Tweet

    bismillahir rahmaanir raheem

    jazaakillahu khairan for your wonderful response. masha'allah tabarak'allah.

    alhamdulillah, you have identified much of what is already recognised as the pitfalls and perils of 'secular' education, and i know that many of these difficulties drive people, especially sisters, away from 'secular' study – because the environments do not, for lack of a better word, 'cater' for them.

    however, what is important, absolutely imperative in fact, is that we do not fall into a culture of laziness and docile thinking. and unfortunately, that is precisely what we have fallen victim to as muslims today. i see, acknowledge and completely agree with many of your points, especially those that ennoble the worship of allah [swt] and matters associated with seeking knowledge and increasing in nearness to allah. i would go as far as saying that where you have mentioned that there should be a 'balance' struck, i beg to differ, in that i do not think there is a balance when it comes to deen and dunya. rather, i – and i'm sure yourself too – hold that when it comes focusing on one's relationship with allah and matters of the hereafter, these matters take precedence over everything else. thus, in my eyes, there is no equal balance, no competition, since the scale should, and will always tip moreso towards the deen. and allah is the source of strength.

    what i do disagree with, and you will have to forgive my assumptions here, is the manner in which 'secular' education is portrayed, and essentially, perceived, by "practicing"** muslims. 'secular' education is about more than just learning skills which are valuable and can 'insha'allah benefit the ummah.' and in fact, the phraseology used is remnant to what i mentioned about muslims and laziness of thought. forgive me insha'allah, this is in no way a personal attack on yourself. alhamdulillah at least you make the effort of providing the theory behind the action of so many people. so many people much rather just act without ever stopping to think why, and this is where my qualms lie.

    people dismiss 'secular' education as almost being a waste of time. nowhere near as important as deen, acquiring knowledge of the islamic sciences, teaching and propagating it and so forth. now, you will see that by my own admission, i have stated that when it comes to deen or dunya, there is no contest. and i stand by that, alhamdulillah. but here's my contention:

    the people are overly dismissive of education and the need for muslim professionals today. too many people, and especially sisters, in my most humble opinion, readily hit the 'deeny' circuit and quit on anything they ever aspired to in terms of seeking a career or furthering in a particular field of study. now, the sister mentioned some of the reasons for this. and i have no real problems with the sisters [and also the brothers] that sit down, consider and think for themselves, and then arrive at the conclusion that they do not see any benefit in their pursuing some sort of a career. i have no ***real*** contentions with that [although there is scope for discussion on this].

    my incredulity lies with the people who can't be bothered to think for themselves, who readily accept and purport the arguments regarding the pitfalls of 'secular' education and use this as a get-out clause for their never bothering to pursue an education, never caring to make something of themselves. because for these people, it wasn't that they saw the benefits and great need for deen over 'secular' education to them personally, it was simply an easy way out. it was a succumbing to laziness that is spreading like a disease in this ummah, and it's not benefiting us. no. rather, it's working to our disadvantage.

    too many people today simply regard a 'secular' education or some form of a career as chasing the dunya, and easily delude themselves in the belief that studying the deen alone, or being a wife or a mother at such young ages is their ONLY calling in life. don't misunderstand me. i am not disregarding the role of a woman as a wife and mother, most certainly not; especially since it is the greatest role a woman has. i am not disregarding the role of a daughter or son in their duty to their parents, for no doubt this task is part of fulfilling and perfecting ones obligations in islam. nor am i dismissing the one who has gone out to study the deen for the sake of allah. not for a second.

    what i will disregard and chastise though, is the boxed-up mentality we've adopted. we've simply stopped seeing our education, 'secular' though it may be, or our career – dunya oriented though it may be – as having any significance whatsoever. and i will go as far as saying that this is precisely one of the reasons why the muslims world-over are in such dire circumstances as they are. because those that can make a difference, simply can't be bothered. they think it too 'unislamic', a waste of time where one is engulfed in the dunya. they wish to 'spread the da'wah' instead.

    brothers, and especially sisters, when will you wake up and see that what you have is in fact a blessed opportunity for you to make a difference to your brothers and sisters, and to do just that which you think you are doing by giving up on study – seeking means to be near allah, to serve his slaves, to aid the poor and relieve the oppressed. when will you see that?

    let me give you some examples of the kind of problems we face today. these are not exceptions, rare happenings or far-fetched examples of things that you'll never encounter. no, these are common scenarios – rife in our supposedly islamic lands and lives. rape. sexual abuse. torture. domestic violence. exploitation. mental illness. alcoholism. family break-ups. parentless children – dad was a drug dealer, mother became ill – child got dumped to social services. these are some of the key problems in our muslim societies today, and that's excusing medical ailments, severe poverty and so on.

    who will provide the solutions to these problems, if not you? ah, now we leave it the professionals right? let the white, middle-class psychiatrist deal with it – if it ever comes to light. do you really think that doctor can relate to your muslim brother or sister? if a person is depressed for whatever reason, do you really think that doctor is going to stop and ask this person about their relationship with allah, about their salaah and their deen? no.

    or then maybe you think we'll migrate to muslim lands, where these problems don't exist. right. what about the little boy or girl in the war torn muslim country whose father was snatched away and his mother butchered before his eyes. he still waits for them to come home. are these not problems he'll grow up with? will the carnage he saw in his childhood affect him as he grows?

    move on. rape. do you know how common rape and sexual abuse is amongst our communities? and who facilitates for these people? nobody. the problem grows and grows until that person goes mad. why? because of stigma and stereotyping, also glorious traits of our cultures. sexual abuse is so common people in our communities don't even bat an eye-lid if they're told. it's the norm. it's the done thing. but what about that person who goes through it? well, on the one hand, they can't ever tell anyone. if they do, the family will cast them out. if they don't, slowly it'll eat at them. then they'll wind up crazy one day. if they had children, those kids will now grow up in a broken home, fail in school, fall into drugs. whoops he's gone and impregnated someone. shucks, didn't see that one coming.

    a kid is being abused at home. dads an alcoholic. has no one to tell. one day his non-muslim teacher sees the scars on his body. measures are put in place. things don't improve. he winds up in care. off to a foster home, being tossed from one family to another.

    and so the vicious cycle continues.

    i am not asking that every person here go out and become a shrink or a doctor. i am not asking that every person here assign their lives to solving the problems of others. i am asking that we step away from the boxed up mentality and wake up to reality. to open our eyes and see the depth of our problems as muslims. and acknowledge, truly recognise, that it is upon you to help make a change. and you will do that, if you push on in your 'secular' education – the places where you actually meet these realities, come to understand the existence of these problems AND the solutions available. even if you never bother with a career in your field, your study alone will open your eyes to a new world, a new understanding. and then tomorrow, if you benefit nobody else, you will benefit your own children with your sharp mind and discerning insight.

    so what is there to lose?

    subhan'allah, i've gone on. this topic is a long and complicated one. multiple factors come into play and need to be considered. like the great parallels between the practicing and non-practicing. the former see little benefit in education, and the latter run to it, run to the lavish lifestyle as they head off to careers in investment banking and so forth, get involved in all sorts, their income is never halaal, their implementation of the deen is non-existent…and they are our muslim professionals. representing the ummah.

    like i say, the issue is a long and complicated one.

    my only intention was to perhaps give some weight to 'secular' education, and the need for 'practicing' muslims to go out there and make themselves known. you are the people that uphold the banner of islaam in a manner that is pleasing to allah. you are the people that are set in your principles, you pray the salaah, you pay the zakaat, you fast the month of ramadhaan. you are the ambassadors of islaam. maybe it's time for a mentality shift. maybe it's time you carried forth the banner and showed the world what islaam is really about. and like it or not, that will mean some compromise, that will mean stepping out of your homes and your comfort zones. and allah is the source of strength, and success is from him, most high.

    i pray that there is benefit in this insha'allah. this is not an attack on any one person, and most certainly not the sister who replied to my initial post. general points i sought to raise, with or without response from anyone else. praise is for allah for what was of benefit. the mistakes are my own.

    alhamdulillah for everything. i don't anticipate i will respond to anything resulting from this – i realllllllllllly don't have the time! walhamdulillah.

    and allah [swt] knows best.

    salaamu'alaikum wa rahmatullah

    ** apologies, i do not use the practicing term in a mocking manner. rather i have my reservations about the term 'practicing' being used in relation to people's adherence to islaam as a general thing – not something i'm particularly comfortable with.

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  4. talktoomuch December 17, 2010 at 1:28 am Reply Tweet

    :should read: the term 'practicing'. sigh. sincere apologies for the length of that!

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  5. Umm Mu'tasim December 17, 2010 at 1:59 am Reply Tweet

    Whilst it may seem unfortunate, i admire sisters who upon becoming more 'deeny' drop out of university or do not go altogether in the hope of pursuiting something that is much better and withdrawing from something that undoubtedly would have placed them in bad situation and had a negative effect. whilst i am saying this i am also saying this is not the case for all sisters and degrees vary, and sisters develop themseleves at different times and when the realisation kicks in and their situation enables them to, they drop out of something desiring something better mashaAllaah. i can not express my admiration for the sisters who mashaAllaah have the strength to prioritse their religion in the way it should be priorited, to perfect themselves in faith and character by withdrawing themselves from the problems of university life. How easy is it for us all to get carried away and forget who you are and who you want to be.

    Many girls are pressured by parents to aspire and succeed academically and they find themselves in situations (this realisation could be too late) that does not permit them to practice islam how they would like. These sisters remain in education to please their parents but despise it for what it does to their eeman and how it limits them to study islam from the way they want to study it and practice their deen in the way they want to or feel they are obliged to. So Why would these sisters not rejoice at going to these places, hamdulilah they are grateful for the opportunites and the good that it has done for them but is the good better than the bad. okay maybe she should have chosen a different degree but what if during the time she chose it she did not feel the same that she feels now.

    Furthermore when time comes and she graduates mashaAllaah, depending on what degree she has choosen, actually in fact regardless of this fact, as in this country (working in non islamic establishments) she may be forced to mingle with the opposite gender, compromise her duties and her faith. Islaam does not oblige you to become an uneducated, unambitious women but it does oblige you to abide by the boundary that are part of it- many of which become breached when working in a such a country. We should fear Allaah in everything we do and make sure our environments are befitting for us and islaamically acceptable, we should not compromise the uncompromisable and desire something that is would have a negative effect on us. Although this is very dependent on other factors hence i speak generally.

    However contradictory my actions are to what i am saying, i can not but speak the truth or at least say how i feel. May Allaah save us from hypocrisy and make us sincere in everything and whatever we do. Aameen. Let us not forget those whose thoughts were only for the ahkirah and for that which pleased their Lord. i did not intend offence by anything i have written and Allaah is my witness.

    wAllaahu ta'ala 'Alam

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  6. sister December 19, 2010 at 2:07 am Reply Tweet

    jazakillaah khair umm mu'tasim

    you summed up my situation in uni subhanaAllaah

    Alhamdulilaah im grateful for the opportunity but i'd prefer to be doing other things

    if i was given the opportunity to study the deen of Allaah abraod and by the end of the 3 years which is the length of a degree i am fluent in arabic and nearly a hafidha and actually learning the deen in arabic

    or to be married and raising belivers for me i value that much more then my degree but walhamdulilaah i still am grateful for the opportunity that Allaah has given me and the fact that my degree is mainly girls and that at my uni is easy to avoid mixing walhamdulilaah

    and as much as i understand what all sis are saying then i think each one of you needs to look at it from the others perspective

    its different for different sis, from the sis who wanted to leave for personal reason to the sis who felt her degree empowered her as long as sisters are gaining knowledge whether islamic or academic then i think its the seeking of knowledge that is important because sis who dropp out dont end up doing nothing in terms of knowledge and sis who stay on inshaAllaah try to balance both walhamdulilaah

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  7. Umm Abu Dujaanah December 19, 2010 at 5:13 am Reply Tweet

    Alhamdulillaah I don’t necessarily think that Muslims fall prey into being lazy subhanAllaah, because ultimately just because a person decides not to study at uni/college etc does not mean they do so because they are lazy but rather because perhaps they see no benefit in it.

    I understand your points and I do think they are valid but sometimes we have to learn to make excuses for the Muslims. Nowadays its just becoming a norm to say Muslims aren’t bothered but we cant generalise and I don’t think its right to generalise. Yes sometimes we may come across brothers and sisters who ‘cant be bothered’ and use dropping out as a get out clause but just because a simple few do it does not necessarily mean the rest of them are like that. And sometimes, maybe those brothers and sisters want to dedicate their entire life for the deen, perhaps for them they want to block all other sciences out and focus on the Islaamic sciences for the betterment of their deen. Theres a difference between ‘I don’t want to and I don’t feel the need to and ‘I cant be bothered’. Allaahu A’lam but some may be bothered but they see that the harm of secular education within the Western world may outweigh the benefit. And I am only trying to look at it from the view of somebody who does not attend uni

    For sisters, being a wife and a mother is no doubt the biggest and most honourable status for a woman in Islaam. There is no other role like it. No one can come close to being a wife. No one can come close to being a mother. A woman not getting into education due to free-mixing etc we cannot say its a boxed up mentality- maybe that sister just wants to preserve her deen.

    For a lot of us, we may go to uni everyday and think I’d much rather not be here, but alhamdulillaah Allaah places you in certain places for a greater benefit. And we are grateful that Allaah has allowed us this opportunity

    Yes we can learn alhamdulillaah. Yes we can be qualified alhamdulillaah. I’m not trying to be pessimistic but time and time again many of us keep saying ‘Our degrees are for the sake of Allaah?’ and is that really true? How much of your time at uni do you focus on Allaah? How many of us after graduating and getting some amazing qualifications, how many of us utilise it? And yes you are right we need people to utilise their qualifications. But sometimes we have to also bare in mind and asses ourselves that its so easy to say that its for the sake of Allaah, but when you actually go out there and you totally commit yourself to that deed, only then you will do it properly and only then you will do it for the sake of Allaah.

    Alhamdulillaah, the examples you gave are good. And yes we need people like this in the Ummah. But some people may not want to do so in the Western system because of free mixing, uniform restrictions (in places such as nursing, etc.) Maybe those sisters feel that being in for example Qatar or Saudi Arabia where there are female only institutes and universities whereby you can qualify as doctors, midwives, and what not, in that situation they would be fine in qualifying in such professions- when they go to placements they are female only. Even if you go into a profession in the UK, Im sure a lot of sisters would go for it, so long as it is halaal and within the boundaries set out by the Shari’ah.

    And yes no doubt there are depths to a Muslims problems, and we should try our best to alleviate that inshaAllaah and we ask Allaah to guide us to that which is most correct. But we always have to outweigh the benefit and the harm by assessing the situation we are in. If our sisters have these ambitions, and they want to work in such professions then that is good. But it is good only when it is in aa halaal environment. How many a time do we hear of the evil consequences that come out of the working environment subhanAllaah. Yes we should focus on the problems of the ummaah, but at the same time as women, I don’t think we should neglect our families. For without a doubt a woman who works all the time, her family life suffers. And ultimately that’s where your priorities lie; your children are your priority; they are the ones who you are raising to become the new generation of Muslims who will go out there and add to the Ummah and bring benefit to the Ummah.

    Allaahu A’lam everyones situation is different but we just make excuses for our brothers and sisters. Some of us can handle university and others can’t. We don’t know the situation of another believer.

    And an advice to those who are at university, Alhamdulillaah we have our degrees and we have the opportunity to study. But at the same time if we want to hold up the banner of Islaam while doing our degrees- the best way to do so as a university/college student is by joining the Islaamic society, not just join it, be part of it, be active in it because that is your platform for da’wah- alhamdulillaah you benefit from your degree and you benefit from the ISoc too

    And Allaah knows best

    may Allaah forgive me for anything incorrect, or if I have caused offence, for anything wrong is from my ownself and all good is from Allaah

    wAllaahu A’lam

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  8. Aishah Foreman December 24, 2010 at 4:52 pm Reply Tweet

    As salaamu alaikum. SubhanaAllah. Jazakallah khair. This was awesome, it leaped into my heart, soul and mind. I use to teach islamic studies and the arabic alphabets at the Islamic Center of Savannah, Ga, 7-10 year olds for two years. They have not called me back last semester when the old Imam left, which made me depessed. When I see some of my students around the area, them and their parents ask if I am coming back. It breaks my heart, but I can't tell them I'm no longer needed there (that is what I gather).

    My sons (adults) are new muslims (1 year). My youngest son who lives with me does his five daily prayers, attends Jumua every Friday (walks). When I come home from work or he will call me to tell me the Khutbah. I give him Islamic literature to study as well as the Qur'an during the day, so that when I get home we can study together. He is not consistent. He was doing studying and asking questions before he became Muslim, but has since not picked up a book. I became frustrated because I knew he was not studying by his recitation during Salaat and choice of friends and just basically not having any islamic dialogue with me.

    I am grateful to Allah (swt) that at least he is doing the basics i.e. salaat, fast, Jumua. He has learned about four surahs, Adhan, Igamah, Dua's.

    Through this lecture, I now know that I need not give up on him or myself, and I need to be more diligent in teaching him and learning more through teaching him. As my college professor (I was pursuing my bachelor in counseling and took my Shahadah one year before I graduated)once told me, things are learned through practice, practice, practice and PATIENCE (I now have my masters degree in social work). I also need to realize that someone had patience with me for me to learn as much as I know now. I basically became frustrated in teaching my sons the religion because they are men and I do not have a husband who my sons could emulate. I use to say, how can I teach my sons to become good muslim men (yes poor me). I am hard on myself as well as my sons to the point that there are times, that I get frustrated with myself because I don't know as much as I should or would like to know about this blessed religion (the way of life) that Allah ir Rahman ir Raheem has placed me on and has blessed me with two (out of three) sons who have became Muslims as adults (my three young grandchildren 5,4,3 yr olds knows salaat, islamic manners and when they hear the adhan will call us to prayer Alhamdulilah). Today is the best day of my life (my boss closed my office for two weeks in which I have one more to go). I guess I need to use the tools that I use with teaching my younger Muslims. Oh I see says the blind man lol! This is the time for me to get started in pursing and being persistent with my goal of learning the religion, practicing my arabic, teaching (not preaching) and listening to my sons.

    I thank my beloved sisters for your encouragement. There is a great slogan in the USA NO ONE GETS LEFT BEHIND. I truly thank Al Kawni for the education that I receive from all who post. I have learned so much over the past three months that I have subscribed to the site. I prayed for a learning tool, since there are no available adult islamic classes here in my state, MashaAllah I have the INTERNET. Can anyone direct me to any other authentic islamic education site, it will truly be much appreciated, I have much learning to do at a moderate pace (taking the middle ground) and praying to Allah ta a'la that I never give up my quest for knowledge or give up on my family, from the cradle to the grave. Allah (SWT) says: Save yourself and your family from the fire! So all is not lost.

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  9. Umm Abu Dujaanah December 25, 2010 at 2:33 am Reply Tweet

    To sister Aishah Foreman:

    SubhanAllaah. We ask Allaah to aide and assist you in everything that you do and set your affairs astraight and make your family strong Aameen. And verily, Allaah will never let your efforts go to waste. The more you strive, the harder you work, to please Allaah, the more He will assist you inshaAllaah. And you have to always bare in mind that alongside your efforts, ultimately it is Allaah Jalla wa 'alaa that guides

    Internet websites you can take benefit from are many, and alhamdulillaah we have so many resources available

    Alhamdulillaah theres <a href="http://www.alkawni.com” target=”_blank”>www.alkawni.com

    <a href="http://www.kalamullah.com” target=”_blank”>www.kalamullah.com

    <a href="http://www.islamqa.com” target=”_blank”>www.islamqa.com (A fatwa website by a respected and reputable Shaykh Muhammad Salih al Munajjid)

    In you tube if you go to:





    They are alhamdulillaah very beneficial Youtube channels

    and we ask Allaah to allow us to benefit from it all


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  10. - December 26, 2010 at 4:39 pm Reply Tweet

    bismillahir rahmaanir raheem

    aameen ^^. may allah [swt] have mercy on you sister, rectify your affairs for you and bestow his mercy and choicest blessings on you and your family. aameen.

    sister, if you don't mind my saying, i urge you to read the story of imaam bukhaari [rahimahullah]. im sure you will find it of great benefit; a source of inspiration, relief and comfort.

    may allah [swt] draw you close and grant you a home with Him in paradise. aameen.

    salaamu'alaikum wa rahmatullah

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  11. amatullah foreman December 27, 2010 at 2:36 am Reply Tweet

    As salaamu alaikum. Tabarakallah fiq for the response. I have began to read the story of imaam bukhaari [rahimahullah] and all I can say right now is WOW. Umm Abu Dujaanah I always love your comments it almost feels like you are or have walked in my shoes. Yes Allah is the guide. I've discussed studying with my son again this morning, and he had a look that he was not interested. I complimented him on his recitation and memorization of the surah's in arabic and english that he knows and asked how he was coming along with the tashahhud and Darud in arabic and was told that he has not learned it in arabic yet. I suggested that he write it on the big Post it (just in arabic) and put on the wall and as he is walking through the house to just recite it daily. It did not happen. I know that Allah (SWT) makes Muslims and places the love of Islam in our hearts. I also know that there is no compulsion in this religion. Allah is the guide and will continue to guide us. I am trying to be sabr and gentle. I am grateful that he does his salaat, attends Jumua every Friday and tells me about the Khutbah. I just need to stop worrying about his iman and be more concerned about mine. Bismillaa hirraHmaa nirraHiim alHamdu lillaahi rabbil 'aalamiin, arraHmaa nirraHiim, maaliki yaumiddiin iyya kana 'budu wa iyaaka nas-a'iin ihdinaaw-swiraatwal mustaquiim swiraa-twal ladziina an'amta 'alaihim ghairil magh-dhuubi 'alaihim wa ladh-dhaaal-liin aa-miin.

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